Do you bounce back when life knocks you down? Teaching children about resilience is a primary focus in children’s social and emotional health, but it’s also important that you and other teachers know how to be resilient as adults. Building Your Bounce: Simple Strategies for a Resilient You by Mary Mackrain and Nefertiti Bruce Poyner with the Devereux Center for Resilient Children can help you gain valuable insights about your personal strengths and provide you with strategies to build resilience and bounce back from life’s ups and downs.

Building Your Bounce also features a 23-item checklist called the Devereux Adult Resilience Survey (DARS). The survey has been shown to give adults insights in four areas: relationships, internal beliefs, initiative, and self-control. Here is some additional information shared in Building Your Bounce about each of the four areas:

1. Relationships

Relationships are the mutual, long-lasting, back-and-forth bonds we have with other people in our lives. Having healthy relationships can help people laugh more, feel healthy, nurture hope, feel supported, have fun, share emotions, and be honest. Here are a few questions to consider as you evaluate your relationships and set goals for better supporting them:

  • Do you have good friends who support you?
  • Do you have a mentor or someone who shows you the way?
  • Do you provide support to others?
  • Are you empathetic to others?
  • Do you trust your close friends?

2. Internal Beliefs

Internal beliefs are the feelings and thoughts we have about ourselves and how effective we think we are at taking action in life. Positive internal beliefs can help you set goals and stick to them, learn from your mistakes, accept praise, trust others, and much more. Here are six questions to consider as you evaluate your internal beliefs and set goals for developing strong and positive beliefs:

  • Do you consider your role as caregiver to be important?
  • Do you have personal strengths?
  • Are you creative?
  • Do you have strong beliefs?
  • Are you hopeful about the future?
  • Do you think you are lovable?

3. Initiative

Initiative is your ability to make choices and decisions and act upon them. Having initiative will help you set an example of eagerness and curiosity for the children in your care. Initiative can also help you find more than one solution to problems and adjust to life’s ups and downs accordingly. Here are eight questions for you to consider as you evaluate your initiative and set goals for improving or maintaining it:

  • Do you communicate effectively with the people around you?
  • Do you try many different ways to solve a problem?
  • Do you have a hobby that you engage in?
  • Do you seek out new knowledge?
  • Are you open to new ideas?
  • Do you laugh often?
  • Are you able to say no?
  • Are you able to ask for help when needed?

4. Self-Control

Self-control is the ability to experience a range of feelings and express them by using words and actions that society considers appropriate. If you work on controlling your behavior, you’ll feel more balanced and take the time to read your body’s cues. Here are a few questions to consider as you reflect on your self-control and set goals for improving or maintaining it:

  • Do you express your emotions?
  • Do you set limits for yourself?
  • Are you flexible?
  • Are you able to calm yourself down?

Check out Building Your Bounce for more information and strategies you can use to increase your resilience.